Our earliest experiences shape our lives far down the road, and What Happened to You? provides powerful scientific and emotional insights into the behavioral patterns so many of us struggle to understand.

“Through this lens we can build a renewed sense of personal self-worth and ultimately recalibrate our responses to circumstances, situations, and relationships. It is, in other words, the key to reshaping our very lives.” (Oprah Winfrey)

This audiobook is going to change the way you see your life.

Have you ever wondered “Why did I do that?” or “Why can’t I just control my behavior?” Others may judge our reactions and think, “What’s wrong with that person?” When questioning our emotions, it’s easy to place the blame on ourselves; holding ourselves and those around us to an impossible standard. It’s time we started asking a different question.

Through deeply personal conversations, Oprah Winfrey and renowned brain and trauma expert Dr. Bruce Perry offer a groundbreaking and profound shift from asking “What’s wrong with you?” to “What happened to you?”

Here, Winfrey shares stories from her own past, understanding through experience the vulnerability that comes from facing trauma and adversity at a young age. In conversation throughout the audiobook, she and Dr. Perry focus on understanding people, behavior, and ourselves. It’s a subtle but profound shift in our approach to trauma, and it’s one that allows us to understand our pasts in order to clear a path to our future – opening the door to resilience and healing in a proven, powerful way.

The Body Keeps the Score

#1 New York Times bestseller

“Essential reading for anyone interested in understanding and treating traumatic stress and the scope of its impact on society.” —Alexander McFarlane, Director of the Centre for Traumatic Stress Studies

A pioneering researcher transforms our understanding of trauma and offers a bold new paradigm for healing in this New York Times bestseller

Trauma is a fact of life. Veterans and their families deal with the painful aftermath of combat; one in five Americans has been molested; one in four grew up with alcoholics; one in three couples have engaged in physical violence. Dr. Bessel van der Kolk, one of the world’s foremost experts on trauma, has spent over three decades working with survivors. In The Body Keeps the Score, he uses recent scientific advances to show how trauma literally reshapes both body and brain, compromising sufferers’ capacities for pleasure, engagement, self-control, and trust. He explores innovative treatments—from neurofeedback and meditation to sports, drama, and yoga—that offer new paths to recovery by activating the brain’s natural neuroplasticity. Based on Dr. van der Kolk’s own research and that of other leading specialists, The Body Keeps the Score exposes the tremendous power of our relationships both to hurt and to heal—and offers new hope for reclaiming lives.

Complex PTSD

Pete Walker’s book, Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving: A GUIDE AND MAP FOR RECOVERING FROM CHILDHOOD TRAUMA

Brene – Anything and everything by Brene Brown.

The Course In Miracles Experiment  – Pam Grout’s ‘Fun Version’ of A Course In Miracles (songs and swears not off limits here!)

Set Boundaries Find Peace

Nedra Tawaab’s guide to Boundaries.
















Human Magnet Syndrome

The Human Magnet Syndrome: The Codependent Narcissist Trap completely rewrites what we know and understand about codependents, narcissists, and the predictable resulting narcissistically abusive relationships. It is an invaluable and much-heralded breakout book for laypeople and mental health professionals.

It is a codependency staple for both mental health professionals and the general public/layperson. Since its original publication, it has sold over 150,000 copies while being published in 12 languages. Its success is the driving force behind Ross Rosenberg’s successful YouTube channel, accumulating over 23 million views and 240,000 subscribers.

Since the dawn of civilization, men and women have been magnetically and irresistibly drawn into romantic relationships, not by what they see, feel and think, but more by invisible forces. Human Magnet Syndrome compelled relationships predictably begin with a dreamlike “love explosion,” which predictably unfolds into a painful “seesaw” of love, pain, hope, and disappointment. Then, like clockwork, the codependent’s soulmate dream lover predictably and inevitably transforms into the narcissist of their nightmares.

With the Human Magnet Syndrome explanations, romantic chemistry’s impossible to escape irresistible love force finally has an answer! Ross Rosenberg brilliantly provides irrefutable and common-sense reasons for this rampant and seemingly impossible perfect storm of dangerous love.

Rosenberg’s brilliant explanations for why patient and sacrificing codependents/Self-Love Deficients fall head over heels in love with beautiful, charismatic, sexy, and exquisitely attractive lovers, who, only after the trap is set, do they safely display their true narcissistic selves.

Ross Rosenberg gives “codependency” and “codependent” their much-needed retirement in this edition. Antiquated, inaccurate, and unnecessarily limiting, these shaming terms cause more harm than help. Rosenberg also adds new information, updates, and refinements.